A Surprisingly Simple Act to Process Your Emotions

Your emotions are your gift

We hardly talk about our real feelings and what they mean in the first place. But feelings are a huge part of being a human, it’s part of who we are. Being dishonest to our emotions is like leaving us out of who we are. 

It took me a long time to admit, accept and listen to my emotions. My real feelings. 

Being a sensitive person, able to tune in within yourself or sense the emotions of other people is a gift. It’s not your weakness as many people may see it.  As I used to perceive it, too.

I had no idea about my gift and had no clue how to read my emotions or what they meant, so I used to think about it as my weakness. Making fun of me when I was crying almost at each upsetting scene certainly didn’t help. It only proved to me I had to toughen up, become “stronger”.  

Another example may be the experience of sensing and getting confusing information. Parents don’t want to burden their children with unnecessary troubles, so the usual words “everything is fine” don’t actually respond to what the child is sensing at that moment when everything is not right in reality. 

No wonder, you start questioning your feelings, yourself, and even your intuition. 

The need to “toughen up”

You learn how to become a stronger, tougher individual who doesn’t cry. You learn to shut down your emotions and trust yourself less and less.  Each unpleasant occasion is another opportunity to close yourself down so that you can protect yourself and so that others don’t make fun of you how it might happen in the first place. 

You learn how to become the “stronger” version of yourself. Except, the stronger you want to appear to the outside world, the more sensitive you are inside. Because you can’t shut down your real emotions. You can’t shut down who you are. How could you? It’s you! 

Just another cherry on the top of many others

So your emotions are growing – inside and keep piling up. Until one day, one tiny significant cherry on top of everything when you can’t hold it any longer and you burst out. 

From nothing. It seems like a completely silly tiny thing that caused you to look like “you lost it all” to the rest of the world. 

This nothing was just a cherry on top of everything you have been suppressing and repressing for days, weeks, months, and even years. 

The more hurt you are, the deeper scar inside. It sinks in so deeply that you can’t even feel it anymore. It becomes a part of who you are. 

A “different” version of yourself is not who you are

Pushing it all down for so many years, making you a “different” version of yourself. It blends so well and deep that you start believing this is who you are. 

Because you can’t remember who is the real you. 

That’s how deep your scars are. The more you suppress, the more it’s calling out for you to hear it out. You can’t run away. You can’t hide anywhere. It’s catching up with you.

It’s never too late to change it all 

No matter how successful a person you are, no matter how much do you earn, no matter what job you have or whether you are working from home, we all want to be loved for who we are. We all want and need to be heard, seen, listen to for who we are. 

Showing up as the real you is a scary process to go through. It’s a process that takes time and serious work on yourself, your thoughts while going through many life challenges you are facing daily. 

However, it’s never too late to start. Just simple stuff, starting with small things for yourself– getting more rest, one extra hour of sleep, making healthier options, reaching out for different solutions. 

It may take you some time to understand that self-love is the foundation for yourself to build on any better life you desire. 

It may take you some time to learn about yourself and understand that your emotions matter. Because you matter. 

It may take you some time to gain the courage and go for what you want. 

If you are one of many

If you have a great sister, best friend, or loving partner who is an active and trusted listener, who you can tell anything and everything, you are the lucky person. But I also know there are plenty of people out there who have no one to talk to. 

Hardly anyone dares to truly say what they are feeling or their deepest desires. Especially when you were shut down for years and afraid to express yourself. The real you. 

We hardly have anyone who would patiently listen with no judgment or giving any advice. Sometimes it’s too much even for your best friend, right? 

That’s why this writing method I discovered with myself plays a huge part in my healing journey and it’s the method that helped me to find the real me again.  

The best part of all? It’s free, accessible any time and to anyone. 

The surprisingly simple act of writing 

Regardless of how much you know about personal growth already or don’t, regardless of how many gurus you follow or how many trainings you have been through, there are times when all you want is to be YOU!  

To speak up, to scream, to be heard, and let it all out – what you feel or going through!

In such moments I grab anything I can write on and let my emotions all go out loud. 

There are so many stories to talk about. And so I just write, write and write… sometimes I can’t stop unless I feel heard, seen and listened to. 

Finally! Do you know what I mean? Try it. Just that little act of writing it all down – you will feel like somebody. You will feel special. Because you matter. You do matter. 

The more you write, the better you are going to feel about yourself. It will keep you going once you connect with yourself on a deeper and higher level. The more you listen to yourself and write it all down, the more chances you will be able to apply outside in the real world too. 

All just by learning to listen to your emotions. A simple act that makes a huge impact. 

Your emotions matter because you matter. 

Writing is a great technique to not only release suppressed emotions, any pain, hurt or pressure you have been through, it’s also a great discovery channel for connecting with the inner you and finding wanted answers you have been looking for for some time. Either you are at a crossroads and asking yourself “what do I want?”, wondering about your next, or just questioning something little that’s going on right now in your life, writing can bring you clarity and connect those dots for you. The simple act of writing allows you to connect with your higher self, open the door to your real desires, to your creativity, and to your heart back. To find the real you.

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